it's 1:30am right now and i'm just now crawling into bed.
i'm tired but not ready to sleep so i thought i'd ask the blogging world for advice on night terrors. any foster/adoptive parents out there who have advice, i would LOVE some!
jesus started waking up with night terrors around 3 weeks ago i think -- about when i got back from the wedding. it's about one of the worst/scariest things/cries i've ever heard come out of him! of course one of us (jessi or i) go running as quickly as possible to get him, but there are nights when he's just unconsolable and it goes on for an hour or more. his little heart will just be beating away and there's no calming him. other nights, fortunately like tonight, i hold him for a few minutes, lay him on chest for awhile and he's ready to go back to bed. and yet, other nights, he absolutely refuses to go back to his crib and i end up putting his pack and play in our room for him to sleep and he's content with that.
everything i've been able to read about them online says that it's pretty common to start around 18 months (he's 17 months) and can stem from several different reasons. i think our main reason is lack of a father figure in the house -- apparently this is a huge factor in night terrors for little ones. so obviously with jessi & i in the house and jesus being the only man he's not having that 'father' need met. ugh.
so for any of you moms and dads out there reading this:
- what was your best calming mechanism for your child?
- would you put them in bed with you? i've heard positivs and negatives on this - since i'm single there wouldn't really be an issue of whether my 'other half' was ok with it or not
- when did they start/stop? (i realize this is different with every child, i'm just curious)
- how often would they occur? (jesus is averaging 3 nights/week)
- if your child is now out of this stage, looking back on it, would you change anything that you did do to improve the turn out?
- any other random advice to help keep this Mama going in the middle of the night? :-]